
Gao’s father, a retired and respected former commander of the Nationalist Army, which he joined as a young boy to escape the marriage his father had arranged for him with a woman he did not love; in advanced age and poor health; suffers from high blood pressure and minor strokes; hopes to see grand-children before he dies; on hearing the news of his son’s marriage, flies to the U.S. with his wife to attend the wedding; able to understand enough English to detect his son’s homosexual relationship with Simon, and wise enough not to interrupt the deception being staged to honor his will; privately lets Simon know, before his departure to Taiwan, that he knows the truth and gives him money on his birthday as a token of acceptance